But a few weeks ago, everything changed. We had all gone out for a fun night, and afterward, we ended up at my apartment. I was exhausted, so I decided to call it a night early, leaving Rachel and Tom in the living room watching a movie. A few minutes later, Tom came into the bedroom, looking visibly shaken. He told me that Rachel had leaned in and tried to kiss him. He said he pulled back immediately, and Rachel apologized, saying she didn’t mean it and blamed it on having too much to drink.
Ever since then, I can’t shake this feeling of betrayal. If Tom’s version of events is accurate, then my closest friend made a move on my fiancé. The thought is devastating. But at the same time, I wonder if I’m blowing it out of proportion. Confronting Rachel could create a huge rift between us, especially if she genuinely regrets it and feels embarrassed. Part of me wants to give her the benefit of the doubt, thinking maybe it was just a mistake. But another part of me is so hurt that I wonder if I should end the friendship altogether to protect my relationship with Tom. I keep replaying that night in my head, wondering if there were any signs that Rachel might have had feelings for him all along.
Since that night, Rachel has been acting differently around me. She’s giving short answers, laughing nervously, and avoiding eye contact. She hasn’t brought up the incident, and Tom hasn’t mentioned it again either. I’ve tried to find the courage to ask her about it, but every time I start, I freeze, afraid of what she might say. If she admits it was intentional, I’m scared I won’t be able to forgive her. But if she denies it, I’ll always have doubts. It’s an impossible situation, and I’m left with so many questions that no one seems willing to answer.
@scalingstories u/ThrowRA-pandechange My friend tried to kiss my boyfriend for TikTok views, and now I guess I can kiss my friend group goodbye because they’re saying it was just a “loyalty test”. Plus one update. #scalingstories #storytime #minecraftparkour #reddit #redditreadings ♬ original sound – ScalingStories
On top of this, wedding planning has become an additional source of stress. Rachel was always the friend I imagined by my side on my wedding day, standing next to me as my maid of honor. Now, I don’t know how to move forward with her without addressing this, yet I also dread the potential fallout if I do. I’m torn between my love for Rachel and my commitment to Tom. I don’t want to lose either of them, but this tension is making me feel like I might have to choose.
Every day, I keep hoping for a sign or some clarity on what to do. I want to bring it up with Rachel, but the fear of damaging our friendship paralyzes me. I think about how much we’ve been through together and how close we’ve always been. Losing her would feel like losing part of myself. But if I ignore this, will I ever feel truly comfortable again?
I can’t deny that I feel a nagging sense of mistrust that I can’t ignore. I’ve never had reason to doubt Rachel’s loyalty before, but now, every interaction feels different. Tom’s been patient, and he assures me that he’s committed to me, but I still feel like I’m carrying this alone. This incident has planted a seed of doubt that’s growing every day.
At the end of the day, I want peace and certainty, especially as I prepare for this new chapter of my life. I want to be able to look back on my wedding day without any unresolved feelings weighing on me. I don’t want to feel like there’s something lingering between my best friend and my fiancé, even if it was just a mistake.
Judy, what should I do? Do I confront Rachel and risk our friendship, or do I try to put it behind me for the sake of keeping the peace? I don’t want to let this situation fester, but I also don’t want to make a decision I’ll regret. I feel completely lost and torn between my loyalty to my friend and my future with Tom.
